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Bratwurst, Rose

What’s In a Name?

Posted on 2008.07.31 at 20:47
Current Mood: curiouscurious
Current Music: I Got A Name - Jim Croce
Here’s one of the mysteries of the human language, at least in this culture. It may not be on a par with the Big Questions — e.g., How did the universe begin, what is our purpose in life, how lucky is Adam Sandler — but it’s a mystery nonetheless. It’s this: Why are some people referred to socially by just their last names, while others are referred to by their first names, their full names, or their nicknames?

It’s not as simple as it may first strike you. Think back to grade school. If your experience was anything like mine, it started right there. I was definitely a last-namer in the parlance of most of my classmates. In my case, I think it was a way of distancing themselves from me, since I had few friends and was a bit of an oddball. I know; you’re so shocked to hear this. Then there are the practical cases where two or more people have the same first name. But even in that case, I see where one of them will usually be awarded the honor of being a first-namer, while the rest are relegated to last-namer status.

This trend continues right on through adulthood. A former co-worker of mine was almost invariably referred to by her last name, and it isn’t at all clear why. Her first name was Michelle – a simple enough name to say. Yet everyone referred to her by her last name, which had more syllables than her first name. She was very popular and well liked, so there was no distancing factor apparent. It seemed more a term of endearment somehow.

Upon reflection, it’s kind of odd that I would have been a last-namer in school, since I came from a large family and went through most of my school years with at least several siblings in other grades at the same time, so yelling my last name across the playground had the potential to garner responses from siblings who were not being addressed at that moment.

While I think there may be several reasons why people utilize last names in this way, a primary reason seems to revolve around personal status. It seems that referring to someone by their last name can be a way of inferring a kind of authority over them, or a right to sit in judgment over them (think military). It can also be a positive status tool; a way of inferring that the speaker is so cool that they can refer to a fellow cool person in this detached manner. Detachment, after all, is often a key component of coolness.

I’m open to additional ideas and opinions. I’m also curious – in what circles are you/were you referred to by your last name? I don’t just mean at the DMV or the doctor’s office; those don’t count. But are there social circles you’ve traveled in where you found yourself being referred to by your last name? Or where you last-named other people habitually? And what do you make of that?

Postscript — It’s a little ironic that I should be addressing this topic here on LJ, since I assiduously avoid using last names here out of respect for other people’s privacy – and my own!

Comments:


denii or deniss
aeazel at 2008-08-01 02:19 (UTC) (Link)
The only time I was really known by my last name was in JROTC. If around parents who insist their children use Mr. and Ms./Mrs., I insist they say Mr. Denis.

I'm horrible enough with first names that I rarely know friends' last names if I haven't known them for at least a year.
Chuck
charlesofcamden at 2008-08-01 05:10 (UTC) (Link)
I find that I am sometimes tempted to refer to friends by their last names simply because last names are often so much more interesting than last names. Who want to call someone David or Sue or Mary or John when you can call them Jablonski, Mazarakis, Van Lander, or Detweiler?
denii or deniss
aeazel at 2008-08-01 05:14 (UTC) (Link)
Hah, I suppose the thing is that if friends have rather common names, nicknames based off their first names quickly became apparent.

College examples: Mattchew, Dickie, Brachu.
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Chuck
charlesofcamden at 2008-08-01 05:12 (UTC) (Link)
I'm loving the image of that work schedule you described. I may have to work it into something one of these days!
(Anonymous) at 2008-08-01 05:48 (UTC) (Link)

Roses Stink

There are certain types of people who insist on calling others by a nickname of some kind. Typically, you can't give yourself a nickname; if you try, it won't stick. Therefore, the usage of such names serves primarily as an annoyance.
-- ggreen
Chuck
charlesofcamden at 2008-08-01 15:42 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Roses Stink

There is a nickname I've been christened with independently on several occasions, by different people who didn't know each other. I won't repeat it here, lest I should seem like one of those self-nicknaming people you describe. It's a common enough word, yet somehow I was never called it until adulthood, when it suddenly became common. The first people who called me by it were several very uncloseted gay actor friends of mine in Detroit, so whenever I hear it now, I hear it as if said by one of them, which, trust me, is rather humorous.
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